The perfect relationship and fairy tale love – Often I have asked myself what this means? Being with my partner for 17 years, this is bound to happen. First you fall in love – and man isn’t that the most amazing thing in the world! You feel that you can concur anything and take on any challenge. You are on a “LOVE” high? Your crush is just perfect and will never do anything wrong in your eyes.
Is this really what love is or is it just a feeling?
For me it is a marvelous, fantastic feeling that cannot be compared to anything else. But love – Love is growing old together, communicating about problems, compromising for each other, putting the other person before yourself and your needs, laughing together, spending quality time together.
Too often when problems occur we just want out. We tend to blame the other person. If you had to make a list of all your partners’ faults it would probably be an impressive list. But if asked to make a list of your own faults you would probably not be able to list more than 4. What this means is that we have become so accustomed to our own faults that they don’t matter to us anymore.
I feel that it is crucial to understand each other’s beings to make a relationship work.
A tool you can use is to identify your partners love language. If you understand this – I am pretty sure you will have that “in love” feeling for the rest of your life together with your partner.
The 5 languages are:
- Words of Affirmation
- Acts of Service.
- Receiving Gifts
- Quality Time
- Physical Touch
My favourite language is definitely Quality Time. What is yours?
Go on – Give it a try! You have nothing to lose.
If you want to find out what your or your partners love language is you can explore this website.
You can also do an online test.